Does your young, high-energy, big-feelings dog seem like they have more important things to do than listen to you when you’re out and about together? 

Perhaps they like chasing critters, finding new friends, or maybe the sights and smells of the world are just TOO tempting… while you’re left struggling to get a sliver of their attention!

It’s frustrating! Many dog owners with intense, high-energy dogs find themselves in this exact situation.

“Why won’t they just listen to me? I’m trying my best!”

The truth is, adolescence is tough for dogs, just like it is for humans. And let’s face it— humans aren’t always great at making ourselves worth listening to!

Why Your Dog Isn’t Listening

If your dog is ignoring you, there might be more at play than just “stubbornness”. Dogs at this stage are often trying to figure out their place in the world: their instincts are running high, and everything is a distraction. They’re curious, energetic, and easily excited by the smallest thing. This is their version of “teenage” behaviour.

Unfortunately, when we examine the situation, we can see that us humans often nag, ignore their concerns, or put them in situations that are overwhelming or too difficult, and then get frustrated when they act out. This stuff risks damaging the bond we’ve worked so hard to create! 

Just like with human teenagers, your dog needs understanding, and patience.

Building a Better Relationship with Your Teenage Dog

If you’re feeling frustrated because your young, intense dog seems to care more about what’s happening around them than you, it’s time to shift gears and approach your training and bonding with a fresh perspective. Here are some strategies that can help foster a stronger, more cooperative relationship with your teen dog:

1. Engage in Play They Love

Does your dog have a favorite game or activity (hint: think about what they were bred to do!). Actively making time for activities they love is a great way to build connection, and is often much more fun than a simple walk around the block! Bring their favorite game to different locations—like the park, the beach, or on a trail? When you make yourself part of the fun, they’ll start to connect you with positive experiences.

2. Give Them Safe Space to Explore

Instead of constantly calling them to come back when they’re distracted, consider setting up situations where your dog has space to explore safely (e.g., a secure field or park?). Take them on outings where they can be curious and get out some energy, but don’t be in such a rush to control their every move. When your dog checks in with you to see what you’re doing, reward them handsomely for this offered attention!

3. Let Them Engage with You First

If you feel like you’re always the one calling your dog over or getting their attention, try the opposite approach. Wait for them to engage with you first (in safe places, of course: see point 2!). When they show interest, that’s the time to reward them with attention, treats, or play. This allows you to build trust and lets them know that your relationship is more balanced—not just about you giving commands.

4. Respect Their Concerns

Does your dog avoid certain things or seem overly fearful? Maybe there’s a noise, object, or situation that stresses them out. Rather than dragging them through it, consider letting them observe from a distance. You can help build their confidence by allowing them to process things on their own terms, without pushing them into uncomfortable situations. Sometimes, the best way to strengthen your bond is by showing patience and understanding.

5. Find Common Interests

Just like you have hobbies and interests, so does your dog! Do they love sniffing out scents or tracking wildlife? If so, you could try scent work or tracking together. Do they love chasing? How about some chasey food games! Find an activity that excites both of you, and incorporate it into your time together. When you’re engaging in something your dog is passionate about, they’re more likely to stay focused on you and your connection will deepen.

Ready to Make Your Dog’s Adolescence a Little Easier?

If you’ve been feeling like you’re doing everything right and your dog is still ignoring you, don’t worry. There are plenty of ways to strengthen your relationship with your young, intense dog: sometimes it just takes a little shift in perspective and training strategies.

If you’re ready to get personalised guidance and support to make training easier and more enjoyable for both you and your dog, I’d love to help. Feel free to drop me a message or book a free call to discuss how we can work together to create a more connected, focused, and happy relationship with your teenage dog.